Speaking to be heard, isn't that what we all seek?
How many times have you bitten your tongue and held back from speaking up? It’s painful and demoralising when you feel you need to keep quiet.
Nobody is going to listen, and even if you do speak up, you're ignored, ridiculed, or told to shut up.
Where is Your Voice?
Speaking to be heard, isn't it what we all seek?
To be acknowledged. To be heard. To matter.
Healing yourself from the many times you were shut down and ignored. No matter what you had to say, it didn't count, whether in school, at home, or at work.
Even as an adult, it still hurts, doesn't it?
Why ask the question? If you don't ask yourself the question, Where is your voice? You continue to ignore your inner voice, which wants you to speak up when you fail to state how you feel and what your needs are. You are failing to appreciate and care for yourself.
Speaking is about expressing your inner thoughts and validating yourself as a person. When you ignore yourself, you are saying, "I don't deserve to be heard or seen. Why would anyone listen to me - I am not enough?"
Finding Your Own Voice
Speaking is about expressing your inner thoughts and validating yourself as a person. When you choose to ignore your voice, you are sending a message to yourself and the world:
❌ I don't deserve to be heard or seen.
❌ I'm not enough
❌ Don't listen to me?
It's no wonder you struggle. Your unconscious thoughts send a message (energy) to the people around you, and they listen to that energy. I am not worth listening to. They speak over you, fail to let you talk, and dismiss you even when you have something to say.
Using Your Voice
It's demoralising and affects your confidence in far-reaching ways, including how you handle conflict, show up in your relationships, and treat yourself.
Who said you were unworthy, not enough, or didn't deserve? You? You accept the words spoken to you as a child and throughout your growing years as the truth, but are they truly accurate?
But more than anything, you continue to confirm your thoughts by your very actions.
By suppressing your emotions, you hold back from speaking despite feeling angry and frustrated. When you refuse to communicate, you are allowing others to dictate to you.
If you refuse to talk, you will continue to suffer more than you would run the risk of saying something and someone laughing at you.
Do you hold back your truth, staying silent out of fear that speaking up will lead to mockery or dismissal? Few things sting more than sharing your view and being met not with debate, but with insult.
Creating a shift in your behaviour
Stop for one moment and reflect.
How do you feel when you think about speaking up?
What do you say to yourself?
Do you believe in yourself, or is there a barrier in the way?
What would you like to say and to whom?
Only you can use your voice; speak proudly and loudly.
Permit yourself to start speaking; it's time.
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I’m Karen, and I wear many hats – author, podcaster, and speaker.
My mission is to help you unlock your full potential, navigate life's challenges, and achieve your goals. Whether you're seeking inspiration, practical advice, or a fresh perspective, you've come to the right place.
Blessings,
Karen